30: Heroism, color, colonialism, and an under-your-nose #lifehack

Now hear me out:

I was in my inbox, lingering as I do when I’m disappointed at not having receiving responses I was hoping for but not quite ready to leave, almost as if optimism is a loiterer who knows full well there’s no legitimate reason for her to be there but can’t find a legitimate enough reason to leave

This is one of the inboxes I go to after leaving my business inbox, my main personal account and of course, what do I see but an email, a trusty alumni newsletter

If you’ve graduated and partly enjoyed your experience at school but also partly really really really didn’t, you may understand the feeling I had when I for some reason that I may never truly understand I opened that email

Maybe the feeling of rejection mentioned earlier prompted me to seek out some sense of community, no matter how false it is.

Anyway—if you’re wondering, yes, I highly recommend my alma mater to anyone who asks or doesn’t ask and yes, that person could probably get away with never buying a meal plan and simply subsisting off of the free food that circulates so consistently and reliably on campus

I’m sure the free food listserv still exists as do other probably unprecedented sources of deliciousness

So, in my alumni newsletter I think, I don’t know because I very rarely open it, there’s a pretty consistent roundup of new books written by Princeton alumni.

I scrolled through the list, pausing slightly during my scroll for some (books) and eventually rescrolled back to the top because isn’t that what you do to force something interesting from where it doesn’t seem to exist.

At the top of the list is a book called “Joyful.”

You may be thinking, “what kind of Snow White and the Seven Dwarves-sounding name is that?”

Ecosias Seven Dwarves names to see if Joyful was actually one if them

Ecosia is another search engine because I hate Google and Ecosia plants trees the more I use it so it helps me feel environmentally woke…


Back to this book called “Joyful.”

Do you remember when I said that Anne Helen Petersen said about millennial burnout: “I never thought the system was equitable. I knew it was winnable for only a small few. I just believed I could optimize myself to become one of them.”

I believe your chances of winning the system depends on what system you’re looking at and in short, I want to optimize you to win.

So, back to this book called “Joyful.” Now, you may be thinking this is some self help nonsense that lost souls furtively buy into to masquerade the shame of not having reached their full potential because society says if you’re not the best, you’re a loser—there’s no in-between.

First of all, I don’t subscribe to this. Someone once said, and this probably not verbatim, “you’re going to grossly underestimate the time it will take you to get from where you are now to where you want to be.”

At the same time, some self help forces you to look at the world in a categorically different way—in a way that runs counter to potentially baseless, mainstream perspectives.

“Joyful” isn’t self-help as much as it is narratives intertwined with research driven by a catalytic story.

You can here about that story in the free preview of her book.

The author Ingrid Fetell Lee stumbled onto or was destined for an amazing realization, one that’s right under your nose.

Happiness or rather joy, which is instantaneous unlike happiness, a putatively chronic state, can be derived from…objects.

This flies in the face of modern psychology, which says…

habit change



These are the ways by which you can alter your inner state to achieve happiness.

Listen to the audio for more.

11: Interviewing Anna from Indiana: why men should care about sexism in STEM, the point of the Ivy League, the fallacies of AI, and interning at Amazon (Part 2/2)